Still Single After All These Years!

Still single after all these years? The BGT woman has made the choice to remain single and/or without children up until this point. We have chosen the high road in spite of all the criticism. We have been considered: picky, high maintenance, conceded, insensitive, abnormal… must I go on? Yet, we are determined to maintain our position at the risk of possibly never marrying and for most of us never having children.
So, why have we chosen this road? This we must inform the world has not been an easy decision. Society has portrayed singlehood as some erroneous act rather than a determined and perfectly fine state in itself. Because of this concept, many believe that singlehood is associated with being incomplete. But amazingly in being single, we are already complete within ourselves. We are sisters, aunts, friends and daughters with strong convictions and play an intrigue role within our society.
We are no longer the “Old Maids” of yesteryear, but successful triumphant women in our state of singlehood. We are lively, fun, free spirited, dynamic, driven, magnificent women whom have made great accomplishments and contributions in society. Most of us have achieved emotional wholeness, educational achievement, financial stability, independence, solace in our role and we have taken a stand in a society which has not warmly embraced us and undoubtly misunderstood us. What do we want to portray to the world that oftentimes we are not clearly conveying?
We want our friends, family and society to know that we still have dreams, desires, hopes and determination to make a difference in the world. Many of us are determined to finding that partner, yes we still have hope until we are deceased there is still hope. We also look forward to leaving a legacy even if it’s not to our children but how about our nieces, nephews, god-children and mentees. And our desire is always to positively influence individuals within our environment. On this blog we hope to trigger your thoughts and ideas and clarify why we are still single after all these years.

Written by: Elizabeth Portalatin
Brooklyn, New York