Big Girl Talk was founded by Nilda whom after researching and chatting with a group of her friends realized there was not a strong presence online or in books representing the Single Childless 40+ woman. There was nothing but dating services for Single 40+ women. Not really a complete shock since this group gets overlooked regularly in our culture. As a result Nilda and friends decided to start their own on/off line sorority and web-blog. This they did in an attempt to reach other women whom met this prototype and give them a voice. The faces of the Big Girl Talk woman may be Latina, African American, Caucasian, Asian etc. the matter is we connect through our experiences.
Our experiences and pearls of wisdom are worth a platform to be respected and our opinions esteemed. No, our lives have not taken on the traditional roles of marriage and children, never-the-less; we have highly contributed to society. We have chosen the road less traveled, by remaining single not necessarily indefinitely but certainly up until this point. We have made the choice not to have children outside of a stable relationship, at the expense of being neither mother’s, nor wives and at midlife we are still single and childless. Through this sisterhood we look to have our place and our voice in society.
This site is not a dating site, nor is it a male bashing site. It is not a site where we are lashing out anger at society for attempting to identify and judge us. This is a place where we will come together to share our thoughts, aspirations, ideas, and disclose our opinions to a culture that does not see US. Here issues will be discussed that you may identify with. Things that possibly your married friends and family cannot understand. This is a sorority, a sisterhood, of women whom share many of the same ideals. This is a safe haven where we can release our feelings and speak from the heart.
Below you will find several founding members of the group whom you will be sharing with you through blogging, poems, organized gatherings and retreats. These are some of the many faces of Single Childless 40+ women.
Nilda Perez – She is the founder of ‘The Big Girl Talk’. She gathered her friends whom shared the same concerns and ideology regarding their single-hood and came up with this concept. She is single and childless and over 40.
Nilda has been single all of her life. In spite of several engagements she has made the choice to remain single to date. Most difficult was her reconciliation not to have children outside of marriage. She really loves and enjoys children; therefore, she has immersed herself in the lives of her five incredible nephews and nieces. She has also been a mentor to her precious god-daughter and several of her friends’ children.
She went back for higher education as an adult and graduated from Adelphi University with a B.S in Social Science. She continued on to Fordham University where she earned a Master’s in Social Work. She has worked in a variety of arenas such as Substance Abuse Clinics, Mental & Public health fields. She is also a Certified Life Coach. Her career took a dramatic turn and as a result she developed an intriguing interest in entrepreneurship. She has started several small businesses and is now in process of pursuing a Counseling and Coaching practice. She is also continuing her education in Entrepreneurial Leadership. Her coaching focus is business and career coaching.
Nilda’s desired outcome with this website is to develop a strong sisterhood of women fitting the prototype. She and her friends want to attract as many women to this group and have them impart their pearls of wisdom unto each other and society. She wants to candidly share her story and her journey. She is determined to find other women who share her sentiments, ideas, and thoughts about their journey and build a strong sorority of Single Childless 40+ Woman.
Elizabeth Portalatin was born and raised in Brooklyn, NY. She was brought up by God fearing loving parents and 7 siblings (5 brothers and 2 sisters). With her parent’s encouragement after graduating from High School as an honor student, she attended Long Island University, where she received a B.S. in Business Management and a Master’s in Public Administration. She has been working in the finance arena for many years and is well respected among her administration. Her conscientiousness has awarded her “Employee of the Month” on many occasions. Her contributions to society are as follows: Elizabeth is very involved in her churches pantry ministry, she has about 10 families that she packages and delivers food to on special occasions, she also assists in putting packages together for our soldiers in Iraq and Afghanistan . She is heavily involved in the Senior Citizen Ministry. She is assigned to one female elderly where they meet once a month for lunch and is also responsible in contacting her during torrential weather to insure her safety.
Elizabeth has not married and is childless; she has a loving and close relationship with her 7 nieces, 6 nephews, 3 great nieces and 5 great nephews. She has been an excellent role model to them both educationally and spiritually. In that capacity she continues to mentor them in every way possible. She enjoys entertainment such as her love for reading, writing, classical and jazz music, inline skating, ice skating, and exercise and loves sharing her knowledge with others. Her motto is: “You are never too young to learn and never too old to stop”
