Sunday, March 14th, 2010 at
8:50 pm
There are endless talks, seminars and book about developing great self esteem. Self-help and building one’s self image books have their own section in bookstores. You read about thinking and speaking positive and how this develops in you a positive self image. My response to that….NOT! Yet to date people suffer from poor self identity.
There is no blueprint to construct a well balanced self image, hence in the quest we suffer. Narcissism and low self esteem are polar opposites and neither delineates who we truly are. And naturally we are driven to either side of the continuum. Even at that we put all of our weight on our strengths and don’t make an effort to work on our weaknesses. So how do we find the balance?
Most have no idea that in fact there is a blueprint. We are spiritual beings who need to tap into the creator for the ultimate understand of who we are and clarity of our assignment in the universe. Yes, we each have an assignment. As spiritual beings we have the power to do anything we set out to do. It is not necessarily all positive however, we need to have a healthy balance to reach our full potential. Understanding what a healthy self image is the premium balance.
The key is not a good self image but a proper self image. Knowing our place and mission in the universe pursue it and become successful. All the positive talk can lead an individual to narcissism and self absorption and will still not formulate the ultimate self image. Aligning ‘your’ self image with God’s brings you to understanding who you truly are. Then you can speak whatever you desire and you will prosper. As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he ~ Proverbs 4:23
Therefore, it is not what how you present, how you look or how you walk and talk. It’s all in your internal belief system. What is important is having that proper self image, finding your purpose and pursuing it with a passion. Yes, the possibilities of what you can do are limitless. But first and foremost is having a proper self image. Then your passion towards your assignment will take off and you will do the unimaginable.
Written By: 
Nilda Perez
Tuesday, March 2nd, 2010 at
11:00 pm
Single women in mid-life are struggling with their self-esteem. With a society that glorifies youth, beauty and thinness a single woman in midlife can lose her self-esteem abruptly. Teenagers are getting boob jobs as high school graduation gifts and twenty-four year old women are having up to ten surgeries at a time to change their physical appearance. This puts the single woman in midlife in a very insecure position. This can easily destroy any semblance of the woman’s confidence.
As a woman goes from her 40’s to her 50’s she struggles with her loss of youth. She questions her identity, her purpose in life, the choices she has made and where will go from here. Mood swings and depression are common during this time. If the woman is experiencing menopause, there are hormonal changes that are contributing to these feelings. This cocktail of issues warmly welcomes on a mid-life crisis.
While for men midlife crisis is more exemplified in their questioning their future and dissatisfaction with career or lack of meeting their financial goals, women are more concerned with loss of youthfulness. Men will begin dating much younger women. Turning in the old and bringing in the new. Women’s concerns in mid-crisis lay heavily on their physical appearance and trying to hang on to their youth. They begin to feel less attractive while they compete with younger women in every area. Therefore, in order to keep up with the completion they turn to plastic surgery. They want to hold on to their youthfulness at all cost. Aging gracefully and beautifully needs to be acceptable. Women should embrace their graceful beauty and take pride in it. Self-acceptance and self-validation is of upmost importance.
The fact is that women in their 40’s and 50’s will begin to lose their youthfulness. They will gray and they will take on a more mature look. This does not mean that they should become anxious and turn to plastic surgery and alter their appearance. It is very possible to age elegantly. In order to maintain a sophisticated fresh and vibrant appearance women need consider other options such as; concentrating on eating healthy, exercising, thinking positive, avoiding unnecessary stress and seek a spiritual relationship. Understand that women are special there are inner qualities that will surface when she focuses on cultivating the “queen in you”.
There is a Queen in every woman! Walk in your royalty and pursue dignity. There is greatness and strength in each woman. There is power in the way you think, believe and in the words you speak. Women in mid-life are the sum their experience and this personifies their true beauty. In spite of life’s challenges, hold on to the inner Queen in you. Be grateful for where you have become. It took years of overcoming challenges that brought you to this place. Embrace and love yourself. Quit trying to mold yourself to society’s false views on what a mid-life woman should look like. In spite of life’s challenges stay focused on keeping your self esteem intact during mid-life and hold to that Queen in you.
Written By:
Nilda Perez
There are endless talks, seminars and book about developing great self esteem. Self-help and building one’s self image books have their own section in bookstores. You read about thinking and speaking positive and how this develops in you a positive self image. My response to that….NOT! Yet to date people suffer from poor self identity. 
